Kid of the Day

{Note, this was written when my boys were just over 3 years old. Friends have successfully incorporated 2.5 year olds into the Kid of the Day rotation in their home.}

Last Monday we started something new in our house that I think is going to be a game-changer when it comes to reduced fighting and whining. We started a “Kid of the Day” program. Back when my babies were actually babies I remember some of the moms in my local triplet group talking about using this “Kid of the Day” thing with their preschool aged triplets, and I was intrigued. I asked a few questions and filed the idea away in my brain until the boys were old enough to grasp the concept.

Lately, the fighting and whining over who sits where in the car, what we listen to in the car, what we watch during quiet time, whose book gets read first, what game we play, what we eat for breakfast, etc. was getting old. Often it would be 2 against 1 and I couldn’t seem to get the boys to understand when they’d been “out-voted”, so I decided to turn to the Kid of the Day!

Last week we did a trial run and it was a huge success! There was a whole lot less fighting (other than the wrestling Jackson and Tyler do 10 times a day) and there was very little whining from those who weren’t getting their way. Here’s how the plan works (or, at least how I’m working it)…

First, I picked who would be “Kid of the Day” for each day this month. I just decided to start with Tyler (which caused a ton of drama from Chase on Day 1) and then repeated the cycle over and over, every day this month. I contemplated having one day be “my” day, but by the end of the week I couldn’t fathom not having a Kid of the Day to turn to for decisions!

Second, I made a list of various things the “Kid of the Day” would get to control. Here is just a sample of them (I add more as needed throughout the day):

  • Pick what we eat for breakfast and lunch
  • Pick snacks
  • Gets first pick of where he wants to sit in the car
  • Gets to pick what we listen to in the car
  • Picks what the boys watch during quiet time each day
  • Gets to push the garage door button
  • Has their bedtime story read to them first
  • Gets to pick which games we play
  • If Nick or I has an errand to run and the other parent is home, the Kid of the Day gets to go on the errand
  • Gets to use special dishes at meal time
  • Decides where we go for fun stuff during the day (example: Do you want to go to the park with the train or the park near the sprayground?)

Do you see how this would reduce arguments in our house? It’s been fantastic! The boys are so excited when it’s “their” day. Last Wednesday Jackson came running out of his room at 7:30am and yelled “I’m Kid of the Day!”.

The boys know that they can lose their “Kid of the Day” privileges with bad behavior, but that hasn’t happened yet. I wish I’d started using this 4-5 months ago. I think they would have “gotten” it by then (so shortly before they turned 3).

If your kids (whether multiples or not!) are struggling with fighting and whining over things, give this program a try! And if you have multiples and aren’t in a multiples support group, get into one – the ideas I’ve taken from our triplet group have been worth more than you can imagine!

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  • love this! i wonder if it’d work for my boys. only one way to find out! thanks for the tip!ReplyCancel

  • Monica S.

    Good tip! I was wondering what the stick figures on the 11th mean?ReplyCancel

    • LOL! I meant to mention that! The stick figures are when my parents get into town. Actually, they arrive really late Wednesday, but the boys won’t see them until Thursday 🙂ReplyCancel

  • That is so cool! When Carsyn gets old enough I will use this. So awesome. Great idea.ReplyCancel

  • Auntie Laura

    hahaha, love the picture of grandma and pop pop.ReplyCancel

  • Anna

    That’s a great idea! My youngest is 13months, so he wouldn’t really “get it”, but I bet my 3year old would understand it’s not her day!ReplyCancel

  • Grandma

    Wow, I don’t know why I didn’t recognize myself on your calendar. LOL. See you on Thursday! Can’t wait to see how Chase rules on kid of the day.ReplyCancel

  • Kate

    Thanks Helen..I might incude this along with the marble reqard systemReplyCancel

  • Kate

    Thanks Helen..I might incude this along with the marble reward systemReplyCancel

  • […] and Logic has been a perfect partner with the Kid of the Day program, because now instead of asking a zillion questions to 3 kids, I just defer all (well, most) […]ReplyCancel

  • Susan

    WOW!! Awesome idea. If I was a mom.. I would definitely try that. Maybe I will suggest it to my sister..hmmmmReplyCancel

  • […] who was Kid of the Day, volunteered to go first. He hopped right up in the chair and was ready to […]ReplyCancel

  • […] comes to the boys’ star charts. We’ve been using these for over a year now (along with the popular Kid of the Day program) and when  you use something that long you need to work to keep things fresh. Every 6 months or so […]ReplyCancel

  • […] mix. On Monday Jackson broke first this plate at lunch and then a bowl at dinner. See, whoever is Kid of the Day gets to use glass dishes and cups for the day. 9 times out of 10 everything survives the day, but […]ReplyCancel

  • […] day, at one of the meals (usually dinner) the Kid of the Day closes his eyes, reaches into the bag, and pulls a card out at random. We then discuss who the […]ReplyCancel

  • […] Kid of the Day gets to choose: what everyone eats for breakfast, lunch and snacks, what to watch for Quiet time, what games (Wii or board) are played, what bedtime story is read, who sits where in the car, what’s listened to in the car, they eat off special plates and they also get to go on one-on-one errands when possible. […]ReplyCancel

  • Brianne Hillman

    On the weekends, my husband and I take turns with each kids one on one time – even if it’s a trip to Sonic or the grocery store. We love it! I love this little calendar. I still struggle with balancing trying to find the time with the three of them, but at least I feel I’m doing the best I can.ReplyCancel

  • Hillary

    This is the smartest thing!!! Your arguments you gave as examples made me laugh because we have so many of the same little complaints every day!!! hahaha!!! Kid of the Day. Wow. Life changing for my 3 girls now and some day the triplets too.ReplyCancel

  • […] What are some tricks you have to maintain your sanity? Kids of the Day is probably my number one sanity saver over the years. We rocked that baby from ages 3-8! Synopsis – kids all rotated being Kid of the Day. KoD got to pick breakfast, lunch and snacks for everyone, what we listened to in the car, we watched on TV, what books to read at bedtime, etc. If you want more details, I have a Kid of the Day post on my personal blog. […]ReplyCancel